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Tuesday, July 22, 2014

12 Ways To Bring Out Your Inner Strength


  I am always humbled by the amount of people who tell me how strong I am all the time. It is hard to feel strong, in fact every night I pray for strength, yet apparently it is something people think I possess. After a long month of medical issues (Read: Epilepsy Testing) among other things, I have realized  that I am a very strong person, but it is not only myself. The strength has always been inside of me I just never learned to use it and to harness it properly.
     You see everyone is strong. You just may not know it. It's not hard to find your inner strength and once you find it you will be surprised at how much easier life gets, how much happier you are and how much you can really accomplish.
        If you are a parent you need strength everyday and you need to know how to help your children to find their inner strength. Imagine all that your children can accomplish if they realize just how strong they are and what they are capable of at a young age.
      I am no expert, but here is what I have personally learned by reading and working on finding my inner strength and I hope these tips help you to find your inner strength, because there is a wonderfully magical world out there that you are missing by not using the inner strength you possess within yourself.


1) Do not be embarrassed to be who you really are. 
  So many times we hide ourselves by what we think people want to see. We put on a facade of our lives. Then, when something bad happens people are floored because you seemed so fine on the outside. Why must we pretend to be strong? You are strong already. Do not be afraid to put your heart on your sleeve. If people see the real you they are more likely to respond positively to you. Remember you already have strength so stop covering yourself up and when someone talks to you tell them what is really going on in your life. Tell them the good and the bad, do not be ashamed of anything. You have nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of no matter who you are.

2) Speak your mind.
    Of course, etiquette still applies here. Do not tell your friend that the new dress she just bought really does make her look fat. Instead find the positive and speak it. Too many times we keep our mouths quiet because we are afraid of offending someone. Yet, it's these things that we do not say that plague us the most. If you have a problem, say what it is, just use a nicer way of putting it. If someone if bugging you say something. If you believe in a cause and someone just slammed it to your face, speak up. Remember, though when you speak up that this does not mean you can be rude, have respect for who you are speaking your mind to. The next time you want to speak up, think about how you would feel if it was being said to you and if you are alright with it, speak your mind!

3) Follow your dreams no matter how crazy they seem. 
    This is your life. You write your own story. How do you want to live it? Too many times we do not follow our dreams because they are not practical or you try, and get shot down and give up. We let life get in the way. You figure your dream does not pay the bills. You are wrong. YOU ARE IN THE WAY! I do not care if you are a 60 year old who wants to be a dancer. GO DO IT! You probably can say "well I won't make any money at it". Is that why you want to be a dancer? Chances are no, you want to be a dancer because you love it. So find a dance class and dance, you never know what could happen. Stop making excuses and getting in your own way. I realize we have to pay bills and run our lives, but what kind of life are you living if you are not following your hearts true dream? Start small first and keep at it. If you love it you will be surprised how far dreams can take you if you let them.

4) Get rid of negative people in your life.
    This may seem harsh and hard to do, but really it is not. You know who negative people are. You groan when they call, you complain when you have to see or be around them and when you finally are around them you end up feeling worse than you did before. YOU DO NOT NEED THIS PERSON. Negative people are too lost in their own lives to ever see the light of helping others through positivity. No matter how much you try you may never change them, they need to figure out how to find their inner strength on their own. No reason to be rude to them, just be busy a lot for a while and let things drift. When you do see them just wish them well and be on your way do not let their negativity get to you. If it is a family member or person you cannot avoid, TRY. Try to avoid as much as possible and when you are stuck with them, "kill them with kindness and positivity". If they bring up something negative either turn it into a positive or change the subject to something positive. If that is too hard, find a reason to excuse yourself. Sometimes just going to the bathroom can change the negativity and gives you time to think of a really good positive story or conversation you can start when you get back.

5) Surround yourself with only positive people. 
   Now that you got rid of all of the negative people in your life, you have more room to invite positive people in your life. You will also find that they will find you also. They will pick up on your new positive appeal and realize you have no more negative people in your life. I know many positive people who avoid a particular person because of the people they surround themselves with. When you do bring positive people in your life, remember they are attracted to your positivity. Do not bring them down with negativity. It is alright if you are having a bad day but remember that they may be having a great day and do not ruin theirs, instead let them lift you up, as they can usually easily do this for you. Keep conversations and activities light at first. People who are very positive do not jump into friendships fast as they are leery of being pulled into negative drama. However, once you have a few positive good friends in your life you will see it is much easier to bring in more and they will be there for you when you really need to be lifted up.

6) Be grateful for what you do have.
     Stop talking endlessly about what you do NOT have. Instead be grateful for what you do have. Everyone in the world right now is having a tough time with something. There is always someone who is worse off than you are. Instead of always harping on what you do not have be grateful for the things and people you do have in your life that make you happy.

7) Be polite
   You would think this is easy, but you would be surprised how many people are not polite at all. Do not rudely comment on people. Always say please, thank you, and your welcome.  Open doors for people, give up your seat for the older person, the pregnant lady or the disabled person. Let someone in line ahead of you whether in the store or in your car. Say excuse me for passing gas, leaving a room or even if you must check something on your phone. Common courtesy goes a long way. Do not force people onto your views. A big rule is you do not talk politics or religion with those you care about. If they start talking about politics and religion just quiet it with that phrase and you can always walk away with a clear mind.

8) Improve yourself
    Everyone has something they would like to improve on. Whether it is the weight you always wanted to lose, a subject you always wanted to learn or something you have always wanted to do. The biggest way to find your inner strength is to get to the YOU that you want to be. Stop making excuses, I am sure you can find many, but you owe it to yourself to improve on what you do not like. A person is never born a perfect finished product. You change and grow and improve yourself along with that growth. Also, take care of yourself, eat better, exercise, expand your mind, expand your views, try new things the lists are endless. Whether you like it or not you are stuck with yourself. Why not try making yourself proud for once?

9) Find a hobby you love that is an outlet for you
    Everyone needs a way to blow off steam, get to their happy place, and just plain old enjoy themselves. No, sitting around drinking on your porch and watching television is not a hobby. Everyone loves something. Find it and do it. Take a class, learn from the internet or just start and keep it up. Try to do it at least a couple times a week if not more. This is a great way to vent and to get rid of any negative energy you carried with you during the day. It gets rid of the negative and gives you more positive because it makes you happy. If you get too frustrated with the hobby it is not your outlet, move on and find something else. Your hobby should bring you peace. I highly recommend anything Fine Art related painting, dancing, playing music, sculpting, drawing, coloring, gardening, crafting, wood working, etc. The Fine Arts were created as outlets and are known for helping people through many tough times in their lives.  

10) Help others
     This is a little similar to #7, but it amazes me how many people think that just because they are in a bad position they cannot help others. What you do not realize is when you are in a bad position it is the best time to help others. It can be anything from smiling every time you pass by someone to waving to people you see, commenting on pictures on the internet or offering an empowering word to someone going through a rough time. These things are so easy, yet so few people actually do them. If you really want to help check out 10 Ways To Give Back.

11) Stop complaining and start thanking
    How many times a day do you complain? How many times a day do you say thank you? Your answer should be zero and all the time. That's right, the more you complain the more you are attracting negativity. You sit in traffic and complain, you complain about the lines at stores, you complain about the weather, about your job, your lack of money, your lack of resources. STOP COMPLAINING! I cannot stress this enough. You will never bring out your inner strength and get rid of negativity if you are complaining. Complaining is negativity, and did you know that the more you complain the worse things will get for you? If you do not like a situation, think of a positive side of it or try thinking of just anything positive. SAY THANK YOU ALL THE TIME! Thank you for my car so I can get to where I need to go, that you for this store so I can get what supplies I need, thank you for reminding me to appreciate the nice weather when we have it, thank you for the job I do have, thank you for all the money I have received throughout my life, thank you for my family, thank you for my friends, thank you for my house, thank you for my pets, thank you for my health. I am sure you get the point. The next time you are about to complain, stop, and think of something you can say thank you about instead.

12) Change your way of thinking and you can change your life
     Some will find this easy and some of you will not. However, it is the simple cliche that if you think happy and grateful thoughts positivity will come to you effortlessly. Once you are positive you will see the boundless strength that you have within your inner self that truly can create a life that you have always dreamed of. You just cannot be so afraid of change. Changing how you think will change your way of life, but remember change is not bad. In fact you are changing your life for the better and you are changing your life according to your goals and ambitions and what you want around you.

    Everyone is capable of finding their inner strength and harnessing it for the life they love! Here are the first twelve steps, now go out there and spread that positivity and love!

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Monday, July 21, 2014

Nominee for Top Stay-At-Home Mom Blogger

    After just celebrating the blog's two year anniversary I am so very proud to announce that Next Generation Stay At Home Mom has been nominated by voiceBoks the voice of parenthood to be their next Top Blogger. Only 50 blogs were chosen out of the world!
    First, I would like to thank those who nominated my blog, just being recognized in the top 50 parenting blogs in the world is a huge accomplishment and compliment to myself and my writing. I am so pleased to have been able to write things that you all enjoy, read, share and even learn from. That was my only goal for this blog to be able to help other parents who may not have the time and resources to search through all the plethora of information and to also try to inspire you on your rough days and remind you that parenting can be hard but it is the most rewarding thing you will ever do!
    So since you obviously like my blog I am asking you to please help me out. The voting starts on July 21st and runs for an entire month. You can vote everyday! Please vote for my blog everyday. I will put the voting button on the bottom of every post for this month and on the sidebar as well. The top ten winners get A LOT of press and some prizes (which is always nice). Please share this, tweet it, share it on Facebook and all the social media you have. Encourage everyone you know to vote. This is a big deal in the blogging world and can help launch this blog into a whole bigger platform which I have been trying to do for a while now and finally have the chance.
     The criteria for this award is that the blog has to be relevant to it's category, have a good influential status and a creative design. They believe Next Generation Stay At Home Mom has all these things and so do I and I know you all do as well. So please vote, share and vote again the next day!

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Thursday, July 17, 2014

Friday Faves Oldies But Goodies VI

The first picture of Xavier's smile!
          I notice that many of you have children at different ages, or are even grandparents caring for children of all different ages. Plus, you may not have read some of my previous posts. Please note most of my posts are in the above tabs of About This Blog (basically our story as a family), The Mom Area (inspirational and informative tips and tricks), Epilepsy Awareness (My personal battle with Epilepsy and stories of others, as well as information), Party ThemesRecipes (from appetizers to baby food, check out all my yummies), Reviews (we review everything from places, technology, beauty, fashion, and of course baby and toddler items), Sponsor Information (if you are considering being a sponsor of Next Generation Stay At Home Mom) and Contact (if you want to shoot me an email for whatever reason, all are welcome, so are comments on the blog and social media). You can find other posts by searching or looking through the months and years. However, I thought it would be much easier for you to highlight stories and items every Friday so here you go! I hope you enjoy and all have a great weekend!


Make A Delicious Meal of
Traditional Parmesan Chicken

Enjoy The Decadence of
White Chocolate-dipped Almond and Lemon Biscotti

Make Baby Homemade
Barley Cereal

Give Back
10 Ways To Give Back To Your Community

Find Out How To Get Your Kid To Eat
Some Good Eats

Get A Glimpse Of The Life Of A
Stay At Home Mom

Take A Vacation To
Ocean Reef Resort Myrtle Beach, SC

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Wednesday, July 16, 2014

2 Year Blog Anniversary!

   Happy 2 Year Blog Anniversary. Thank you to each and everyone of you for helping this blog become as big, influential and helpful as it has become. You just simply cannot have a successful blog without readers. You have all blown me away with your wonderful comments, subscriptions and "liking" all my social media pages.
      As a result of all that you contribute by reading and liking posts I am able to continue writing and helping to earn a living for my family. So on behalf of all the Arbia's. THANK YOU!!!!!

                 You are the reason I write everyday!

                     I hope you all have a great day!

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Tuesday, July 15, 2014


    We finally tried some Play-Doh with Xavier during a bad thunder storm day.  I had tried it once before with him when he was almost two, but he only tried to eat it so I put it on a shelf for another time.
     He is now 27 months old and he loved the Play-Doh. We had to really show him how to use it and what to do with it. Mostly Nick and I made different things and he played with them, but he liked squishing the Play-Doh and seeing all the fun colors of it. Not only did Xavier like it but he did not eat it!

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